Social Behaviour Patterns

I’m a big fan of making new friends. Can one have “too many friends”? I would say yes. The point that I HAVE reached is one where people are now coming out of the woodwork to use me in finding them an IT solution of sort. My question is this – why do these people insist on changing back into associates, once we’ve become friends? I believe the answer is simple; society’s addiction to the “quick reward” is now reaching into people’s lives. The syndrome of “want it fast, want it now” has a side effect of leaving friends, family, co-workers and everything else around them “out to dry”, like remnants after a new carpet install, or leftovers after a good meal. I for one, don’t enjoy feeling like a doggy-bag.

  1. An acquaintance/associate is a person you know, but who is not a close friend. It’s the person you run into in the hallway or feel comfortable meeting in a group setting, but usually not by yourself.
  2. A casual friend is a person you are more emotionally attached to. You feel comfortable meeting with this person one on one.
  3. A close friend is a person you spend time with regularly and can depend on. You feel comfortable reaching out to this person at any time.
  4. An intimate friend is someone you can share anything with.

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an “acquaintance” or an “associate”, such as a classmate, neighbour, co-worker, or colleague.

Acquaintance, on the other hand, refer to those we have met but do not know well. In general, the noun associate refers to colleagues or people we work with; in other words, those we know in a professional context.

Associate and acquaintance are two words we usually use to refer to people we have met but are not as close as friends.
In general, the noun associate refers to colleagues or people we work with; in other words, those we know in a professional context. But if we happen to run into each other again, that’s great. It would be rude not to speak with acquaintances when you see them, but it is not expected that you make plans to see them intentionally.

A casual friend can be someone from work with whom you occasionally eat lunch or attend work-related conferences.  You probably wouldn’t call on a casual friend to help you change a flat tire or pick you up at the airport.

A close friend is someone who makes an effort to help when you need it and can be depended upon to keep their word. In close friendships, you are comfortable discussing the things that go on in your day-to-day life, both good and bad. You share your secrets, commiserate with one another on the bad days, and celebrate with one another on the good days.

In an intimate friendship, there are few topics that are ever off-limits. The intimate friend is one who can point out your flaws and offer suggestions for improvement, and while it may be difficult to hear, it isn’t offensive because you understand how deeply they care for you (and you’re willing to do the same for them). The difference between a close friendship and an intimate friendship is primarily time. A close friendship that withstands the ups and downs of life over an extended period of time is considered an intimate friendship.

 

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Flies in the Loft

I had a bit of a fly infestation in my loft. I didn’t notice it before I was putting my Christmas decoration away, but I must admit that I had seen flies around the house and I just couldn’t think where they came from, now I know.
I went finger-shopping for pest-controllers.
The first one Rentokil was so expensive (they wanted £450), I fopped them off with “I will wait until the infestation gets worse”.
A friend of mine said that I should contact the council and get them out. I looked at the council’s website and couldn’t find it, but when I Googled “MK Council Pest Control” it gave me a link to the “Pest Control” page.

Milton Keynes residents are offered a comprehensive pest control service via our approved vendor SDK Environmental Ltd. To access the service please contact our contractor DialAPest which is part of SDK Environmental and advise them that you are a resident of Milton Keynes. A discounted rate is available for customers in receipt of certain qualifying benefits.

The site specifies the whole price you’ll have to pay, and that’s it. The man came this morning, he was in my house for 5-10 minutes, filled in a worksheet, that I signed, and he got on with it. The only restriction I have is that I am not permitted in my loft for 24 hours. All done for a mere £58.

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Hedgehogs

If you see me in your yard/garden,
please put out some food (cat croquettes…)
and some water (rain when possible).

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Don’t give me milk, I’ll drink it but I’ll feel bad.

Don’t put insecticides out, PLEASE!
I’m harmless and an opportunity for your garden
because I feed on bugs that attack vegetables.

My species is dying!

Help me stay alive!

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I am hooked up

This picture was taken just four days after my full left shoulder replacement. As you can see, the operation was successful and all I have to do is learning to just use one hand for everything.

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I am already starting on some basic exercises to strengthening the bruised muscles. Sleeping is a little bit problematic, as I can’t sleep on my back very well, so I have to wedge my left hand to prevent the shoulder to fall forward. I think I have now managed to find the ideal (for me) solution.

I have carers to help me change my cloth morning and evening and to have a wash. They are lovely people, the first carer was a man, and stripping to “full Monty” took some “brain blanketing”. I survived but I can’t say I loved it. Actually it doesn’t matter what sex the carers are, I still don’t like the “full Monty” strip and wash; but when one doesn’t have two hands one is grateful.

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This is not a gargoyle

I always thought this was called a gargoyle but recently I found out that it’s a grotesque, even though it’s not living up to its ridiculous name.

The difference is:

  • Grotesque is the architectural term for statues found on the side of buildings for ornamental purposes.
  • Gargoyles are a particular type of grotesque with a handy feature: spouts that carry rainwater away from the building.

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Shopping in MK has become a joke.

This morning between 9 and 10am I went shopping after having tied yesterday evening in Lidl to purchase normal vegetables and found only empty shelf, even potatoes didn’t exist. So, I went back to Lidl this morning and … empty shelfs.
I had checked online if Morrisons had any food stock, according to their website they had everything. But alas, they didn’t have any vegetables, they did though have one type of potatoes.
I then decided to try Sainsbury’s but wasn’t very optimistic. Wow, they had nearly everything on my list, Wow.

Many thanks to Sainsbury’s, for introducing item limits and special morning hours for OAPs. It looks like its working. Thanks Again.

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Thanks to Anglian Water

clip_image002Somewhen between the 24/6/19 and 7.8.19 a not so friendly unknown person turned the water to my ponds on and left it on.

When returning home after my shoulder operation, stay in the care home and with a friend, we found that the water was running in the garden.

While sitting relaxing the phone rang, it was from the Anglian Water, who queried my enormous water usage. I explained my predicament and the lady was very sympathetic, she said they would check the meter again within a fortnight and get back to me.

I was very reluctant to open the letter from Anglian Water; but scraped some courage together; and was pleasantly surprised. All the “leakage”, to the amount of £1095.28, had been written off.

Phew, what a relief! Thanks!

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The triumph of a Gardener

My gardener was here the other day and she found this snail nursery; don’t tell me that 13 is an unlucky number (but for the snails to-be it was)

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And a little later she found this snail kindergarten/graveyard:

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there were also two baby frogs – and I think they ate all ‘the kids and the teacher’ in the kindergarten, because of all the empty houses. Sorry frogs; but the evidence had to be destroyed, so no more easy dinner, but there are enough other snails in my garden, I just can’t show you the way!

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Another fortnight has evaporated since the Op

The arm-sling is off and it found its way to the dustbin. I think we were maximum 5 minutes with the doctor, who looked at the scar poked a bit and checked my movements showed me the x-rays of the new shoulder, and answered 4 of 5 questions, wrote my release from surgery note and a referral note to the physio department.
The last question was “when can I start driving again”?
This is depending on the physio from MK-hospital.

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